Most astrology books tell you the most positive qualities of the sun signs. Here is the other side of the picture. Understand that not everyone has only positive or negative traits, we all have a little of both. But I think you'll find that when you have a problem with your mate, the characteristics below will probably be close to accurate.
Aries - The Egomaniac
There is a tremendous burst of power and love is at its peak when the affair
is new, this tends to diminish the further the affair progresses. In the beginning
he can be the ideal lover, but at the end there is resentment and hate. There
can be no tests of his love or demands from the loved one. He is the master
and the game must be played by his rules. When an Aries female's lover tries
to take the upper hand, she will dismiss him as difficult and overbearing. She
will go from one man to another, comparing and testing them to decide which
one she can handle with the greatest ease. Her satisfaction depends on how much
the man is capable of giving her and rarely considers her own contribution to
the affair. Faithfulness is not a concept she understands.
Taurus - The Insensitive Bully
The Taurus man will always choose someone inferior to himself who is willing
to serve him in some way - a kind of servant to wait on him, to be useful in
helping him advance his career. Many choose not to fall in love but rather have
their freedom to pursue their career. They are practical in love above all else.
The Taurus female only has marriage in mind. She charmingly and quietly beguiles
and seduces a man into marriage and then proceeds to strip him bare of all his
worldly goods, abandoning him the moment his pockets are empty. She will use
her earthly sexual powers which can be considerable to make a good marriage,
repeating the process as often as necessary to satisfy her greed. Taurians hate
to talk about love, most of all when a verbal commitment is expected of them.
They can never avow their love with a full heart, always fearing that they will
be victimized. Taurus cannot bring himself to tell his loved one how much he
cares. He is a clumsy lover, knowing he can not be tender. Taurus will deliberately
avoid a delicate emotional situation lest his awkwardness and his inability
to deal with it become apparent.
Gemini - The Divine Discontent
When Gemini falls in love, he is overwhelmed with feelings of indecision and
confusion. Love is always viewed in the abstract. This idea of love enables
them to avoid clutter of physical and emotional ties; preferring to carry on
an affair through letters or telephone than in physical fact. A typical affair
may begin through a brief journey or meeting - an encounter that requires very
little emotional responsibility. It can be kept alive through correspondence
which may last for years. This allows them to remain uncommitted and free for
Gemini prizes freedom. They can be impatient in the sexual act and would rather
be voyeurs rather than participants. No single partner can meet their needs
and they can carry on more than one affair at a time. Their pleasure in love
is mental rather than physical and thus they welcome the secret affair where
meetings are difficult and mental torment is intense.
Cancer - The Oedipal Complainer
The male Cancer falls in love readily and becomes involved emotionally. He tends
to dramatize his love affairs and can even create and intense emotional attachment
to someone whose affection for him is either slight or nonexistent. Cancer is
extremely jealous and possessive always believing his lover is faithless. This
is a direct threat to his masculinity, reverting to helplessness and impotence.
It takes little to reassure him and once his self-confidence returns he will
be caught up again in complete devotion and the cycle begins again. The female
Cancer who can be as jealous as her counterpart is capable of handling more
than one lover, but being possessive, she must own them all. They are like playthings
to her, to be manipulated and moved about like toy soldiers. She will drain
the purse of each and every lover. They are complainers and never stop crying
and pleading for money and gifts like spoiled children. They shop constantly
filling their closets with clothes they never wear, accumulating lovers whose
emotional commitments they collect but rarely reciprocate. Their appetite for
food is similar and they will eat gluttonously all day. They confuse love with
an emotional hunger for attention and sensual satisfaction.
Leo - The Prima Donna
Leo is very dramatic about love and wants the whole world to love as ardently
as he does, for he is always in love. Love enables Leo and makes him generous
and enthusiastic. But he must keep his lover in the dependent position and will
smolder if he is not adored. Leo women will browbeat or cruelly abuse their
lovers to get total obedience. To Leo love is a great ideal, to be dramatized
and honored. He will occasionally employ deviate, degrading sexual practices
as a sign that the lover is no longer loved, that the affair is over. He will
expect the lover to become disgusted and to leave him; he will not take the
initiative to end the affair on his own. Leo women use the same device. Leo
hates open argument and will not lower himself to fight. An unwanted lover is
simply dismissed. Leo males will attract women as if they are sirens while the
females will control and disdainfully reign over their men. It takes Leo a long
time to recover from a serious love affair; in fact he will try to avoid this
kind of love so that he cannot become vulnerable to another's power. When he
has committed himself fully and generously, as he will, and then he loses, he
will become aloof and distant until his confidence is regained. Leo believes
he is the only one who knows how to love and thus he feels he deserves all the
attention he can get.
Virgo - The Censor
When Virgo falls in love it is purely for sex. The lover must be able to satisfy
Virgo's considerable sexual needs. Each new image arouses sexual desire, but
so long as you can remain sexually attractive to Virgo, you will retain his
love. The slower you are in yielding your gifts, the longer you can keep the
affair alive. Nothing is more unattractive to him than easy surrender, which
stamps you as cheap and worthless. Virgo can be either chaste or promiscuous,
one extreme or the other. There are many spinsters, one-man women, and confirmed
bachelors in this sign, but there are also the chasers who frequent bars or
pickup joints in the search of a one-night stand. This type can be quite degenerate
in his sexual appetites. Despite this, Virgo ranks lowest on the scale of sexual
prowess. He is not romantic except as the chase itself is romantic. Sex is something
to be done as quickly and efficiently as possible. When Virgo says he loves
you and behaves in a jealous manner, do not be flattered. This usually simply
means that you are serving some useful role for them and are considered a piece
of their property. Anyone who tries to lure you away is depriving Virgo of a
useful tool - no more. For both male and female Virgos, true love is not involved;
they are never tender or sympathetic unless there is something they cannot get
without showing affection.
Libra - The Narcissist
Librans work hard to keep lovers coming and going. At first they will give you
constant attention until you are completely involved but soon the demands of
keeping up the love affair will become too much for them and you will become
part of the background. Librans will never relinquish their lovers completely,
for they may be needed again. The primary function of a lover is to amuse, satisfy,
admire, and exalt Libra, and if you are easily won, the excitement is blunted.
If Libra is rejected, he becomes completely demoralized; he cannot believe that
anyone could weary of him, though he does nothing to deserve love. Yet even
when sorrowful, Libra will immediately seek to dispel the blow by filling the
environment with new people - or will revive his original charm until you surrender.
In failure, he is without pride, and nothing will compel him to look within
himself for any failing. Librans are very competitive and will often scheme
to humiliate their loved ones. It is a shock to learn that Libra can be spiteful,
for he seems so blandly unaware of his offenses to others. Librans have a fascination
with sex and require a great deal of stimulation to become aroused. The sexual
act itself can be a nuisance and though all sorts of methods may be employed
to arouse and be aroused, there is often little personal interest or involvement.
Because Libras gives so little real emotional commitment to a lover, it is not
surprising that they like to talk about their affairs. By comparing and weighing
the attitudes of themselves and their lovers, they can remain uninvolved and
even dissipate whatever interest they may have had in the loved one. Libra likes
orderly endings to love affairs. This is to their advantage because, they may
need to call on the deserted lover at a later date.
Scorpio - The Sex-Obsessed Demoralizer
A Scorpio male is too practical about human relationships to fall deeply in
love; his real love is power and making his reputation secure through wealth
and position. Whatever is left over will be given to a lover. Both male and
females are always discontented in love and complain constantly about the loved
one, usually they are not loved sufficiently. A Scorpio often feels that his
lover is weak and inattentive, and unable to appease Scorpio's voracious appetite.
Scorpio does not hesitate to tell the world about his lover's weaknesses, but
if the lover is unwise enough to expose Scorpio's inadequacies, he would be
making a costly mistake. For a love affair to run smoothly, Scorpio's loved
one must be submissive with no life of his or her own; the lover must allow
himself to be absorbed body and soul. But no matter how much is given, the lover
will always be treated ungratefully. Scorpio has no interest in his partner's
responses or satisfactions, only in his own, for Scorpio is the most selfish
sexual sign. His famous sexual appetite is like his eating habits - greedy and
intense. He cannot be distracted from his own pleasure during the sex act, otherwise
he will fail to achieve climax. This points up the fact that Scorpio is really
weak and lacks sexual strength. This may be because they give so much thought
to their sexual obsessions that their energy is dissipated by the time the real
thing comes along. For the Scorpio woman, sex is treated as if it were a job
to be done, nothing more or less. She does not have to love a man to sleep with
him; there is no real tenderness or affection expressed during the sexual act.
The extreme sexual attractiveness that Scorpios have is powerful, they are physically
as well as mentally magnetic. Both male and female love to quarrel, which is
an important part of lovemaking. Fighting seems to stimulate them, the atmosphere
they create seems to make things exciting for them. Scorpios resent needing
others to satisfy them, and this results in hostility and anger, a passion to
degrade or demoralize the loved one.
Sagittarius - The Don Juan
Sagittarians fall in love at first sight and idolize the image of their loved
one. From then on, they are making love to an ideal, rather than a real person.
Even when they are in love, they can easily fall in love with another, for there
is always some new feature to attract them. They are incorrigible flirts and
each new conquest reinforces their behavior - but they never know when to stop.
They collect lovers indiscriminately, often becoming involved on impulse with
worthless people. They are unreliable lovers, most of their energy is devoted
to courting a new lover, while keeping the rest dangling on a thin thread. Their
light, tentative touch simply reflects their emotional shallowness, although
it is attractive to many people. The fear of intense lovers who might trap them
has taught Sagittarians to use the device of treating the lover as an idol,
so that they can maintain a distance and prevent close involvement. Because
of their Don Juan mania to conquer all, they rarely become completely committed
in a pure, deep love affair. Sagittarius is too shallow, irresponsible, and
romantic to be truly emotional. But he cannot tolerate inconstancy in others;
he is conceited enough to believe that a lover will continue to love him forever,
though the lover may be neglected or even forgotten. Sagittarius is not cruel
but foolish. They cannot endure an intense sexual relationship, preferring to
sample here and there. The sexual act is not as important as the courtship;
in fact, they have many lovers to hide the fact that sexually they are second
rate. Sagittarians never grow up.
Capricorn - The Honor Seeker
Capricorn does care a great deal about love, which is often a source of inspiration
to him. Capricorn is probably the best sexual performer of the zodiac, though
his quiet manner and desire for privacy often hides this considerable talent
from view. Both males and females seek a mate who is capable of fulfilling their
voracious sexual appetites, which occupy much of their attention. Capricorn
males select their lovers with great care; they are not flirts in any sense
of the word and do not like to waste time in searching for a lover. They know
by instinct when they have found the right partner. The sexual act is often
a kind of ritual for them, not simply the fulfillment of a need or a form of
release. He expects and is capable of quality lovemaking; seeking to achieve
total satisfaction for both himself and his partner through his innate desire
for the highest form of sexual love. Because they take time in finding the suitable
lover, they remain faithful and rarely end an affair or marriage. They have
much to give a lover; silly, romantic, gestures bore them. If they are deceived
or abandoned, they will usually turn their energy to their career and become
very difficult to deal with on a personal level. They can be contemptuous of
anyone who refuses or mistreats their love. If they do not find the right sexual
partner or mate, they care for no one who is not useful in furthering their
ambitions. The female Capricorn is the most unfortunate woman of the zodiac.
She too seeks to be exalted in love, but because she tends to select men whose
ambitions she must support, she is never truly satisfied. She is more generous
than her male counterpart, but is rarely lucky in love. If unattached, she is
usually involved in her own ambitions. She can be cold and scheming, using her
sexual power to seduce men and get control of them. As both male and female
are masters of lovemaking, so are they masters at hating. One of their favorite
ways to show hate is to curse people.
Aquarius - The Fame Freak
One cannot expect a smoothly running love affair with an Aquarian, who will
become bored with a lover as quickly as he falls in love. Everything is done
in extremes. Relationships will start off with a bang, and you will be given
undivided attention until the excitement wears off. At that point you will be
dropped without ceremony if the initial feeling can never be revived. You will
be treated like a stranger as soon as the affair is over unless you are clever
enough to transform the relationship into a friendship. The male makes a better
friend than a lover. The female is domineering and likes to run the affair,
making all the rules. She can be a heartless virago, pressuring the man into
submission until not a shred of his self-respect is left. If he manages to escape
her, she will be prideless and masochistic in pursuing him until he returns.
Perversely, she will find the lover more precious if he does not want her. Aquarians
concentrate on one lover at a time until they become tired. They do not like
to take the responsibility for ending an affair but if the lover doesn't get
the hint, they will provoke a quarrel or create an impossible situation so that
the lover will have to leave. Both male and female grow to hate any lover who
wants them more than they want the lover. Remember, treat an Aquarian badly,
disappoint him, break appointments, keep your emotions hidden - they will be
captivated.
Pisces - The Spiritual Panhandler
Pisceans need the constant reassurance of love. They become hurt and dejected
if those around them fail to make frequent loving gestures. They get love mixed
up with affection - and affection is what they really crave. Fuss over them,
and their gratitude can be embarrassingly servile and effusive. Do not be too
flattered when you are singled out by a Piscean, for he will cling to whomever
is nearest to him. Pisceans long for love, hunger for friends, and will set
about claiming you for their own. It is not necessarily you they want, however;
it is the romantic atmosphere of love that sets their emotional craving into
action. When they do find someone to love, they will demand enough attention
to discourage even the most patient admirer. They will pretend they are not
worthy of your love to elicit reassurance, but this is play-acting, an illusion
they conjure up. Piscean men choose women who have money or a social position,
someone who will support them in their profession. They do not mind a domineering
woman, in fact, she suits them. They find security in a strong woman; demanding
lovers and nagging wives give them the constant attention they need. They are
the original milquetoasts. They can be lied to or deceived but will continue
to go on loving an unfaithful woman; it makes her all the more precious if she
is desired by other men. This is a narcissistic kind of love. Pisces men are
not exciting sexually, they are very passive, almost female in the act. Sex
is not important to them, for they do not often have enough energy to perform.
They dissipate what energy they have in emotional experiences. Pisceans are
often drinkers and many have become drug addicts which gives them a route into
their fantasy world. The females are just as clinging as the men, even more
so. Their methods are subtle, quiet, and unassuming; they will send out a smokescreen
to hide the fact that they are leeches, exploiting their lovers. They need lovers
or husbands who will assume full responsibility in caring for them, so that
they can be free to drift through their aimless lives. The Pisces woman does
not necessarily care for the man she pursues, but she considers it a threat
to her femininity if a man passes her up or eludes her attention. Pisces woman
must prove they are desirable. Once they win, they will slide back into their
emotional swamp, frightened at what may be expected of them, unable to maintain
the charade. Pisces woman do not see what is wrong with their own faithlessness.